My own kind of Adoption Amnesia

I just went through my old e-mails. I started with my referral, October 16, 2005. After reliving that excitement, the paperchase, the "Woohoo I'm done with Family Court" surprise conversation on Valentines Day, the visit trip, the DNA wait, The Lie, the requests for medical reports, the cedula explanations, the bmom interview, hiring AS, asking for a new referral, and the accusations, I gave up. I got tired of reliving it.

The good thing is, you DO forget. Even my nightmare. There were parts of it that I forgot myself. Not the big stuff, I remembered all that. But I forgot some of the times the agency director accused me of lying or fabricating things (and of course I had back-up documentation to show that I was NOT the one lying). I forgot some timeline things, too. Like I thought I asked for a new referral (I knew I did that on July 3) AFTER I found out that Thanassis was involved in the case, but it turns out that I didn't know about his involvement for another 12 days. So the really good thing is, someday I'll forget just how horrible this has all been! (See, I told you I'm not always negative.)

I still have six months of e-mails to go through. From memory, I have at least one more time when the agency brags about being able to bribe in PGN (I have several other references to that). I don't have much from the agency, since the director stopped talking to me when I stopped being so darned afraid of her. I know that I also have the negativa from AS saying that my POA was never filed, and I have an e-mail from the agency promising the POA had indeed been filed. (I already have another e-mail from AS saying that Thanassis admitted my paperwork was never registered, and that was within the first two weeks of hiring AS.)

And I know I have that whole thing from December-January. Where I was promised a refund, then a referral, then a refund, then a referral but only through Thanassis, then a refund, then IGNORING ME. I know I haven't gotten to the REALLY good stuff. The stuff where I'm told the agency doesn't have to do the job I hired them to do, and the part where they remind me the contract doesn't guarantee me a child.

I DO STAND BY MY ORIGINAL LINE - The contract doesn't guarantee me a child. I didn't set out to buy a child. I did, however, hire an adoption agency to help me facilitate an adoption. And since I never started an adoption process, they did not do the job I paid them to do. Guarantee of a child is NOT what I was looking for - ATTEMPTING to adopt a child is what I was looking for, and the agency DID NOT do this for me.

Do you know anyone who tried to adopt a child from Guatemala but the child never came home? PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE leave your e-mail in the comments! Or e-mail me at janedoeguatemala@yahoo.com. PLEASE! Or if anyone you know of tried to adopt, paid money and never brought their child home, PLEASE let me know. PLEASE!!!! I even have an e-mail from my agency director who said this happened to two other families through my same attorney, so I'd LOVE to find them...